demonoid369
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From one parent to another
- Thread starter GREEDY GENIUS
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spookyseven
Rock Crawler
I agree with a lot of what has already been said but I do have a suggestion. How is his physical health? I know for me personally If I don't keep up on exersize, sleep well and make an effort to eat right, it can take an emotional toll.
Or maybe he thinks his actions will keep dad coming to moms house, Which they are. The child could just be trying to fix things in his own way..
Bottom line everyone here is guessing, your kid is not talking about the problem. You need to get others involved.. I would not go on a witch hunt or even question the X based on what some guys on a web sight have suggested. You and the X should met with a counselor from the kids school or someone from your church. talk with them first and then have them talk with the kid..
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AX10wannabe
RCC Addict
im 23 (will be 24 beginning of january) but when i was like 17 and in grade 11 i was a quiet kid in school didnt have many friends, didnt get into fights.. well.. not too many anyways lol.. it was on a weekend and i was at the gravel pit 300yards from my house going for a nice peaceful mountain bike ride and like 5-6 guys came over on dirtbikes and one of them pushed me off my bike, ass hit the ground i got up, he pushed me again i stumbled around got on my mtn bike and got the eff out... told my parents right away.. of course i went to school with this weiner and unfortunately where i live there is only 2 school buses that come out here... yeah.. he lived farther down the valley than i did..
ever since that day this kid picked on me, he sat at the back of the bus with his friends and they'd yell shit at me, calling me names etc.. course i got off the bus before he did but every once in a while he'd sit up front beside me across the row for walking. he even got off the bus at my stop which seems very weird because he lived a long ways away from me. couldnt understand why. he wouldnt touch me, talk to me just follow me and walk past my driveway. it was weird..
i told the bus driver, a couple teachers, the principal and he got a talking to.. apparently he was bugging a couple other kids as well and got kicked off the bus for a month or so.. i said sweet.. everything was fine.. he came back and started the shit over again.. then one day i got called into the principal's office and he said that the kid got kicked off the bus again.. i said "for how long" he said "forever".. apparently he bugged another kid too much and they finally did something permenant.. its been like 7 yrs since i've seen the kid..
i told the story because unfortunately it doesnt matter what the age of kids are there's always some other kid thats gonna bully innocent kids. im like what your describing, sometimes my parents ask me whats wrong i say "nothing".. also i just got a dui and was on probation for 9 months so i had an probation officer i had to go see once a month.. it was nice because it let me tell her stuff that i wouldnt tell my parents.. had to fill out a little program booklet thing and it let me write down how i really felt.
im single and have no girlfriend/wife or kids but im with the rest of the group sounds like there's something going on at his mom's house.. take your son to the school counsellor and tell them whats going on, or maybe a family member or a family friend that he feels comfortable with that he can talk to.
good luck and i hope you guys get this crapola sorted out real quick!!
sorry this post is long but here's my opinion... i find it hard to figure out why some kids/teenagers have to bully/pick on other kids... i just dont seem what good can come out of it.. do they have too much time in their hands?? is it drugs? are they not doing enough during the day to keep them moving around?? like i just dont get it.:roll::shock:
"thumbsup":mrgreen:
ever since that day this kid picked on me, he sat at the back of the bus with his friends and they'd yell shit at me, calling me names etc.. course i got off the bus before he did but every once in a while he'd sit up front beside me across the row for walking. he even got off the bus at my stop which seems very weird because he lived a long ways away from me. couldnt understand why. he wouldnt touch me, talk to me just follow me and walk past my driveway. it was weird..
i told the bus driver, a couple teachers, the principal and he got a talking to.. apparently he was bugging a couple other kids as well and got kicked off the bus for a month or so.. i said sweet.. everything was fine.. he came back and started the shit over again.. then one day i got called into the principal's office and he said that the kid got kicked off the bus again.. i said "for how long" he said "forever".. apparently he bugged another kid too much and they finally did something permenant.. its been like 7 yrs since i've seen the kid..
i told the story because unfortunately it doesnt matter what the age of kids are there's always some other kid thats gonna bully innocent kids. im like what your describing, sometimes my parents ask me whats wrong i say "nothing".. also i just got a dui and was on probation for 9 months so i had an probation officer i had to go see once a month.. it was nice because it let me tell her stuff that i wouldnt tell my parents.. had to fill out a little program booklet thing and it let me write down how i really felt.
im single and have no girlfriend/wife or kids but im with the rest of the group sounds like there's something going on at his mom's house.. take your son to the school counsellor and tell them whats going on, or maybe a family member or a family friend that he feels comfortable with that he can talk to.
good luck and i hope you guys get this crapola sorted out real quick!!
sorry this post is long but here's my opinion... i find it hard to figure out why some kids/teenagers have to bully/pick on other kids... i just dont seem what good can come out of it.. do they have too much time in their hands?? is it drugs? are they not doing enough during the day to keep them moving around?? like i just dont get it.:roll::shock:
"thumbsup":mrgreen:
My bet is the bully at school. My grandaughter does the same thing as your son and she's 11, I've been trying to figure out what has been wrong with her latly. Well she finally told me about a couple girls at school that call her names. She never said to us that she wanted to be in heaven.
5th grade is a tuff year.
5th grade is a tuff year.
RCHuffer
Rock Crawler
Sorry, I don't have experience, but I do have a daughter who's 8 and she's means the world to me too:
Can your best friend come live with you for a Month? Just to see if he's depressed living with his Mom.
The sadness when he's home, is because he knows the time spent with you will be coming to an end. If you could find something he likes that makes him happy, support him with that. My skateboard was my best friend growing up, now it's my crawlers….
The bus driver, his teacher, and the principle need to hear of what happened on the Bus. The more people aware of this, the better.
Find out the type of inter-action the boys Mom and him have, Sometimes the mother is trying too hard to get back into the dating game than spending time with the child. On that note if she is dating, find out how well the new boyfriend and your son get along.
I am in no way any kind of Professional Phycologist, Just one Parent to another
Can your best friend come live with you for a Month? Just to see if he's depressed living with his Mom.
The sadness when he's home, is because he knows the time spent with you will be coming to an end. If you could find something he likes that makes him happy, support him with that. My skateboard was my best friend growing up, now it's my crawlers….
The bus driver, his teacher, and the principle need to hear of what happened on the Bus. The more people aware of this, the better.
Find out the type of inter-action the boys Mom and him have, Sometimes the mother is trying too hard to get back into the dating game than spending time with the child. On that note if she is dating, find out how well the new boyfriend and your son get along.
I am in no way any kind of Professional Phycologist, Just one Parent to another
been through this one myself as the child. i have to say that seeking counseling sooner rather than later is the best option. my experiences during middle, high school, and college with name calling and other harassment have landed me in the hospital twice under care of state. the damage can be near permanent. trust me on this one, being taken to a psych ward by the sheriff is not something a child gets over, its better for the parent to seek action than the state.
and the bullying thing is a persistent thing, you can take one bully out of the equation and another WILL take their place. its something again that i have been through for my mostly private issues. there will never be a solution other than getting some coping mechanisms under your belt, and the best way to learn those is though professional help. too late have i learned my mechanisms (music and fabrication) and its cost me a wife, my ability to go out in public comfortably, and strained my family more than i would discuss openly.
the school counselor is a good and free (at least here, can't imagine anyone would charge, but i can see it) if they cannot help, then an outside professional is THE option. i suggest therapy before any sort of medication, had a nice week in a locked room because of a med backfire. bullying is a plague in schools, and there is no true way to get rid of it, the parent taking actions against them often backfires after a while, in that the bullies have more ammo to throw. this is one that i know for a fact and hid for a long time from my parents. there is no way around it in the hormone fueled pack mentality of schools.
this is what i went through, and i don't wish this journey on anyone. please seek help for your child.
and the bullying thing is a persistent thing, you can take one bully out of the equation and another WILL take their place. its something again that i have been through for my mostly private issues. there will never be a solution other than getting some coping mechanisms under your belt, and the best way to learn those is though professional help. too late have i learned my mechanisms (music and fabrication) and its cost me a wife, my ability to go out in public comfortably, and strained my family more than i would discuss openly.
the school counselor is a good and free (at least here, can't imagine anyone would charge, but i can see it) if they cannot help, then an outside professional is THE option. i suggest therapy before any sort of medication, had a nice week in a locked room because of a med backfire. bullying is a plague in schools, and there is no true way to get rid of it, the parent taking actions against them often backfires after a while, in that the bullies have more ammo to throw. this is one that i know for a fact and hid for a long time from my parents. there is no way around it in the hormone fueled pack mentality of schools.
this is what i went through, and i don't wish this journey on anyone. please seek help for your child.
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GREEDY GENIUS
Rock Crawler
I called his school this morning and spoke to his principal personaly.
I told him of the situation tht took place and how it affected my son,he asked me the childs name and all we had was the first name,my son ddn't know his last.then he asked if he wanted me to take my son into his office and ask about the boy etc..
I told him that if he could find out about the other child and talk to him only because i didn't want my son to feel anymore pressure than he is already feeling.He told me that he will talk to him and find out more and will contact me further.
When i got home from work today,my son still looked a little down,i had asked him how was school and his day.
He told me school was good.i had then told him that i talked to his principal today and that he is going to talk to the other boy.
I had then asked him if he bothered you again today,he said the boy wasn't on the bus.
I then quickly changed the subject to get his mind away from it,we went outside to play some kick ball and some of his friends came through and we had a nice game and he was laughing and joking and smile so nicely,it was so good to see that side of him!!
Now i dont know if this is entirely the reason for him to be down the way he has been lately but i am going to look at him closely these next few days and monitor him.
His mom actually told me that i can have him for xmas and new yrs eve,i had asked him if he wants to spent it with me or mom,he quickly said ME!..his mother is a good person but she is sometimes all about herself and doesn't do half the things i do for or with him!
She is seeing someone new now but she is keeping it on the down low from him from what i can see?
All i can do is hope and pray that he will pull through this situation and i prayed to god last night that he guides him through this tuff time.
Thank you everyone who has taken the time to post on here and help with your thoughts of this situation!
Like i said,he is my world and my very best friend and love him more than words can describe!
Once again...THANKS!
I told him of the situation tht took place and how it affected my son,he asked me the childs name and all we had was the first name,my son ddn't know his last.then he asked if he wanted me to take my son into his office and ask about the boy etc..
I told him that if he could find out about the other child and talk to him only because i didn't want my son to feel anymore pressure than he is already feeling.He told me that he will talk to him and find out more and will contact me further.
When i got home from work today,my son still looked a little down,i had asked him how was school and his day.
He told me school was good.i had then told him that i talked to his principal today and that he is going to talk to the other boy.
I had then asked him if he bothered you again today,he said the boy wasn't on the bus.
I then quickly changed the subject to get his mind away from it,we went outside to play some kick ball and some of his friends came through and we had a nice game and he was laughing and joking and smile so nicely,it was so good to see that side of him!!
Now i dont know if this is entirely the reason for him to be down the way he has been lately but i am going to look at him closely these next few days and monitor him.
His mom actually told me that i can have him for xmas and new yrs eve,i had asked him if he wants to spent it with me or mom,he quickly said ME!..his mother is a good person but she is sometimes all about herself and doesn't do half the things i do for or with him!
She is seeing someone new now but she is keeping it on the down low from him from what i can see?
All i can do is hope and pray that he will pull through this situation and i prayed to god last night that he guides him through this tuff time.
Thank you everyone who has taken the time to post on here and help with your thoughts of this situation!
Like i said,he is my world and my very best friend and love him more than words can describe!
Once again...THANKS!
Just keep loving him like you are."thumbsup"
johnnie walker
Pebble Pounder
Or female visitor?
Does he have any learning disabilities? That caused A LOT of problems with bullying when I was in 4th grade, because I cried and couldn't answer one problem on my writing test.
NoobCrawler
Rock Stacker
I haven't read the thread, so if this has been addressed, my bad.
I'm not a dad, but I'm just curious of something. When you say, "his" house, I'm assuming you mean moms? Maybe he and mom are having issues that make him sad/uncomfortable?... Just a thought.
I'm not a dad, but I'm just curious of something. When you say, "his" house, I'm assuming you mean moms? Maybe he and mom are having issues that make him sad/uncomfortable?... Just a thought.
