I have a 6 and 4 year old, and we have a certain set of rules that we stand by 100%, No going in anyones house,(in the neighborhood) and no sleepovers. My daughter(oldest) cant even stay at her cousins house but for good reason. We found out around the time she was 3 that my wifes brother in law's dad molested him and his sisters. And they still let him around them and their 3 kids for holidays and soccer games and general stuff. They even let his mom babysit with the stipulation the dad is not supposed to be around. Well then I find out he drive's a school bus on the rural route. So I had to call the superintendant and they fired him. But now he has his job back as a mechanic and is not allowed to drive bus. My wife has a few creepy uncles that say shit to the younger girls at family get togethers like "come sit on my lap and we'll talk about the first thing that pops up". I feel like I can't let my kids go anywhere with anybody because the world is filled with these people that are a threat to children. Am I crazy? I remember growing up in Jersey and my only rule was I had to be in yelling distance to my mom. Now i live in the stix and I can't let my kids out of the yard.
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How much freedom do you give your kids?
- Thread starter camobob
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i hear you brother. i have a kid on the way and washington state has a density of weirdos, registered and otherwise. i have a family of soldiers and one of my guys told me to not let the paranoia get the better of you. you're better off establishing rules and clear communication. im sure your kids have no problem talking to you. all you need to do is identify the threats locally and protect yours accordingly.
punkfan
Quarry Creeper
I used to think sheltering your kids was a bad thing........then I had a daughter, and started paying attention to all the BS in the world. No I think keep them sheltered as long as possible. Kids these days grow up way to fast as it is. Im no saint, but cheese and rice some of the stuff i here from young kids is shocking. As sexist as this may sound as a man you just dont have as much crap to worry about.
Skeeno
RCC Addict
Sounds like it's not everyone, just your inlaws. I say stay away from them.
Can't say I blame you camo, I would surely keep my kids away from those people family or not. I think I would tell those uncles to come sit on MY lap and we could talk about the first thing that pops up, which would be something in the shape of my glock, chambered with a full clip.
The sleepover thing I don't worry about, my four year old has done that. Of course it's only been with a very close friend and her son and my family. I wouldn't just let my kids stay anywhere. But hey, they're your kids and no one else's. The only ones that have to agree are you and your wife, all others can jump in a lake.
The sleepover thing I don't worry about, my four year old has done that. Of course it's only been with a very close friend and her son and my family. I wouldn't just let my kids stay anywhere. But hey, they're your kids and no one else's. The only ones that have to agree are you and your wife, all others can jump in a lake.
BLOODBANE
Quarry Creeper
I give my kids a little leeway, but for different reasons. Both my kids are diagnosed with RAD(reactive attachment disorder). Both of mine are adopted out of foster care(my ex and I fostered kids before we adopted). We have seen a few cases of molestation, and its not a fun thing to deal with(we had a 8YO that was molested by her aunt). I teach my kids that adults are not to ask them things of that nature, they are not suppose to go with anyone that I have not told them to go with, and as long as I know where they are at(they have to ask before going anywhere), I'm usually O.K. with it. The sooner they learn the world is not all roses and champagne the better in my book(I'm a rancher though and they get to see some pretty interesting things going on with my job). Remember, your not raising babies, your raising adults. JMO....
MnRockCrawler
Quarry Creeper
X2. They sound like a bunch of weirdo's.
we avoid them like the plague, but at the same time her dad is way cool and it sucks to have to be asked by him if we are going out to Leons every thanks giving. He treats me like a son, and I have put him through alot of shit in the first few years me and the mrs were toghther. But either way you never know who else has the creepy uncle that just pops by when I let my kid stay somewhere. I trust she would tell me if something happens, but god forbid she would ever have to tell me. On another shitty chomo note , there is a guy in my town convicted of molesting 11 kids ages 1-9 and he lives 4 house's away from a daycare.:shock: How is this puke on the streets? someone should nail his doors shut and burned that mother down.
2500hdon37s
I wanna be Dave
wow, def. a wierd situation.
i would say i have tons of freedom from my parents, i mean sure im 17 and a guy but i still feel i have more freedom than a lot of my friends and i get away with a lotof shit pretty easy.
i would say i have tons of freedom from my parents, i mean sure im 17 and a guy but i still feel i have more freedom than a lot of my friends and i get away with a lotof shit pretty easy.
Slowkrawl
Quarry Creeper
You are also a male. Like was mentioned already, young females really have to be careful.
XcrawlerkidX
Quarry Creeper
I have a good amount of freedom for a 16 year old. There are some rules. Like if I'm going some where I gotta tell my parents and I have my cell phone almost all the time. If friends wanna come over it has to be okay with my parents. That's really all there are for rules.
If you think your getting away with stuff easy, then your parents need to tighten up on you a little. Don't blow the trust that they have given you by thinking your getting away with stuff.
Being an adult is not doing the things you can get away with. I have 7 kids all grown and moved out. some I could trust to make the right choices and some I had to guide more.
Young males have to be just as careful.
Rootar
Rock Crawler
Keeping kids away from known super-creepy relatives with questionable morals is not a bad thing. I would do it too. I wouldn't even consider it a question of freedom.
Is that even legal? Usually they have to stay a certain distance from those sort of places...I'd check your local rules and reg's and see what they say. If he's not in compliance, report his ass.
Is that even legal? Usually they have to stay a certain distance from those sort of places...I'd check your local rules and reg's and see what they say. If he's not in compliance, report his ass.
calikingcrawler
RCC Addict
X2 that is a joke. I wouldn't even look into it. Just report it. I'm sure that can't be legal. Inform other parents of the situation also if they don't know. I'ld go scare him out.
I remember when we were kids, my brother, sister and I used to run wild. Times have changed so much. I have 2 girls now and wouldn't allow them to do 1/10 of the shot I did. I'm not to worried about the 1 year old right now as she only stays with the parent or sometime my life long best friend. But the 8 year old. WOW. Just standing back I have to restrain myself from tearin the heads of the guys who give them the looks. It is crazy how the wife doesn't even notice. I guess us guys change ALOT when we have girls. As far as rules. She is only allowed to go to friend houses when we are available for a quick pickup. And only if we know and have spent time with the parents. BOTH parents. No offence guys but I trust none of you. Ive gone as far as telling one I wasnt sure about "touch my daughter and .........." you get the idea. I feel that somethings they need to find out the hard way, but I'm not going to risk my daughters childhood so she can have fun at a friends. I say shelter them. This world is not what it used to be. It's a scary place!!!!
http://sor.sd.gov/MoreInfo.aspx?s=S0217936 Seriously. The puke moved , I drove by his place today thinking about all this and it was empty. Looks like he move a whopping 25 miles from my town.
I would like to have a special preserve created for child molesters. It would be a heavily secluded, fenced, and secure place. Since the perverts like being naked so much they would not be allowed any clothing. and would all live together. Food would be gathered/farmed by them. Not tools allowed, only what they can make. The place would also be populated by a large number of very horny male silver back gorillas. Need I say more. I envision something along the lines of the big horny bird that was in hell in the movie Little Nicky........
JeremyH
I wanna be Dave
I dont give my two year old much freedom.....he can, however, borrow the Fastback to head on over to the local bar to pick up the bitches...
Dammit, I told that little rascal to take my golf clubs out first! :evil:
Dammit, I told that little rascal to take my golf clubs out first! :evil:
