Adoption?

[TattooKenny]

You can also look into teens that are prego and don't want to keep the baby. I've been told that it is a lot easier to get a child that way than to adopt from the state. Just a thought....

As a young teen I was in foster homes growing up. My best friend parents went to classes for a year to become my foster parents. After being in the states system I would have done anything to get away from that! I was living in a foster home with 17 kids!:roll: That family hoarded children to get a pay check from the state and did nothing for us. It was one of the worst times in my life. That is why I've worked with abused and neglected children since my 20's.

My advise would be to try and adopt as young as a child as you can. I'm not saying that older kids don't need help because they do. But adopting a 12-14 year old only gets you 4-6 years of being a "parent". And most of them are set in their ways and habits. They have been in the system so long that they just don't care any more. It's really sad to see and even worse to live through.

I tip my hat to anyone that adopts a child, any age. Your saving a life and giving them so many things they never had or could have had.

 

[RivBlueNoma]

Im personally fine with all of the back ground checks, home inspections and even the financial snooping. Im glad that they arent just handing out kids to any shmuck that asks for one. While I am not diluted enough to think adoption should be free. Im not ok with the insane prices. I just dont see how they can justify the retarded costs. These kids need homes and the would be parents need the the $20-30k to raise them. :roll:

id also love to hear everyone complain they give kids to shitty people if they didnt do all the background checks and shit.

 

[Mr.Slave]

Im personally fine with all of the back ground checks, home inspections and even the financial snooping. Im glad that they arent just handing out kids to any shmuck that asks for one. While I am not diluted enough to think adoption should be free. Im not ok with the insane prices. I just dont see how they can justify the retarded costs. These kids need homes and the would be parents need the the $20-30k to raise them. :roll:

true that!

 

[Eritex Inc.]

Im personally fine with all of the back ground checks, home inspections and even the financial snooping. Im glad that they arent just handing out kids to any shmuck that asks for one. While I am not diluted enough to think adoption should be free. Im not ok with the insane prices. I just dont see how they can justify the retarded costs. These kids need homes and the would be parents need the the $20-30k to raise them. :roll:

100% in the same boat as you. I went through the classes, back ground checks, interviews, etc (which we had to pay for) and was happy to do it. What really stuck in my throat is paying legal fee after legal fee after legal fee and then you get to pay your lawyer, and then more legal fees, then the adoption agency gets a couple fat checks, etc.

We walked away with broken hearts. My wife wants more children in the worst way and since I was adopted, I thought it would be a good fit. You always hear about all these kids needing a good home but that is not what they mean. What they should say is "We have kids for sale, if you have deep enough pockets."

 

[RivBlueNoma]

100% in the same boat as you. I went through the classes, back ground checks, interviews, etc (which we had to pay for) and was happy to do it. What really stuck in my throat is paying legal fee after legal fee after legal fee and then you get to pay your lawyer, and then more legal fees, then the adoption agency gets a couple fat checks, etc.

We walked away with broken hearts. My wife wants more children in the worst way and since I was adopted, I thought it would be a good fit. You always hear about all these kids needing a good home but that is not what they mean. What they should say is "We have kids for sale, if you have deep enough pockets."

We were on the same train of thought. My Mother In Law was adopted and one of my best friends was adopted so when we realised that the old fashioned way wasnt working it seemed like a natural choice. You couldnt be more right about "kids for sale............. if youve got the money". You would think the powers that be would cut their rates in order to help get/keep kids out of the system.

 

[adamargue]

My family has adopted 6 kids from the u.s that were takin from there families.

 

[dezfan]

We were on the same train of thought. My Mother In Law was adopted and one of my best friends was adopted so when we realised that the old fashioned way wasnt working it seemed like a natural choice. You couldnt be more right about "kids for sale............. if youve got the money". You would think the powers that be would cut their rates in order to help get/keep kids out of the system.

You would think.:roll:

Good luck guys! I hope it all works out for you. I know you're all good peeps and would provide a better, more supportive, and loving environment than any government agency could provide."thumbsup"

 

[run2jeepn]

Anyone want to Sponser me, Just need $15k to $20k to get started...

 

[dezfan]

Let's do a RCC fundraiser. :twisted:

 

[run2jeepn]

As a young teen I was in foster homes growing up. My best friend parents went to classes for a year to become my foster parents.

Sounds like me and my Foster brothers story... We where friends since 2nd or 3rd grade. He moved in with me after my Jr. High in High School. We played every sport our school dished out. It was a blast. "thumbsup"

My wife watches a little boy and gets paid by the state to watch him. ($13 a day)A long time friend of the Family. They had a young daughter get raped. She was still in High School and a couple of more years to go. With all the options out. She choose to keep him. So while she is in school we have him and watch him when she needs us to. For being so young. She is a great mother, but she has some growing up to do still. So we have had them come by and check out our house, Fingerprints, back ground checks and so on.

 

[BLOODBANE]

My ex wife and I adopted two children(sister and half brother) back in 2006. first thing we did though was foster kids (younger children under 9). The state (here in CO) paid for everything except the actual adoption (we lucked out though cause the family lawyer believes in adoption and did ours for free). It was our intentions from the first to adopt, so we just had to wait until some children came up. We moved in the spring of 05 (about 120 miles away) and then my kids came up. The county where we had our foster home, came and did all the home studies, and since we had already done our classes, the children where place with us. Law here said they had to be in our home at least a year before adoption. The following year, the day after my dads birthday the adoption was final.
One thing to keep in mind though when going this route, a lot of these children have been abused(mentally, physically, and sexually), have not had the proper care given to them that they needed as infants, and problems arise. A LOT. We have two kids I wouldn't trade the world for, but they both suffer from R.A.D. My daughter is nine and my son is seven and we go to counseling every week. Not from anything we have done, but what the birth parents didn't do. It gets tough at times. You have to be a strong individual, not only for you, but for your other half and the children you bring into your life.
there are things that the foster parent classes don't teach you, which we are learning now, so if you go this way, brace yourself for the worst and hope for the best. There are a lot of wonderful little kids out there though that just need a fighting chance (or some one to fight for them).

 

[run2jeepn]

My ex wife and I adopted two children(sister and half brother) back in 2006. first thing we did though was foster kids (younger children under 9). The state (here in CO) paid for everything except the actual adoption (we lucked out though cause the family lawyer believes in adoption and did ours for free). It was our intentions from the first to adopt, so we just had to wait until some children came up. We moved in the spring of 05 (about 120 miles away) and then my kids came up. The county where we had our foster home, came and did all the home studies, and since we had already done our classes, the children where place with us. Law here said they had to be in our home at least a year before adoption. The following year, the day after my dads birthday the adoption was final.
One thing to keep in mind though when going this route, a lot of these children have been abused(mentally, physically, and sexually), have not had the proper care given to them that they needed as infants, and problems arise. A LOT. We have two kids I wouldn't trade the world for, but they both suffer from R.A.D. My daughter is nine and my son is seven and we go to counseling every week. Not from anything we have done, but what the birth parents didn't do. It gets tough at times. You have to be a strong individual, not only for you, but for your other half and the children you bring into your life.
there are things that the foster parent classes don't teach you, which we are learning now, so if you go this way, brace yourself for the worst and hope for the best. There are a lot of wonderful little kids out there though that just need a fighting chance (or some one to fight for them).

That is true. My Foster brother had a younger brother and sister. Both have issues. The Sister I have booked it at the jail for Prostitution and drugs.

 

[jason]

My ex wife and I......

You have to be a strong individual, not only for you, but for your other half and the children you bring into your life.

I notice you said ex wife. Did your divorce have to do with these children? Just wondering, you don't have to answer if you don't want to.

 

[BLOODBANE]

Sorry so long for response. No our divorce was mainly differences in what we wanted (I'm a rancher and she's not). We actually get along O.K. Now, mainly for the kids sake.

 

[Cheatin]

Anyone want to Sponser me, Just need $15k to $20k to get started...

If it were me, I'd spend 150-200 bucks and buy a dog instead. :ror: