When I saw this, I laughed out loud and couldn't help but do a little eye rolling with a touch of "seriously dude?" shaking of the head [emoji849]
I am shocked and mystified when I see people assigning such fatalistic conclusions when met with a very insignificant, very minor, and very common, tiny inconvenience? -
You do know that, unless you truly are clinically insane, or have severe brain injuries or disease, you are, as a human being, sentient?
this is one of the defining traits that makes us human - it's the ability to control our brains and our thoughts, and thus, autonomously respond to our external and internal stimuli all on our own
If I notice that I have a tire going down on the way home on a Friday night, it would NEVER occur to me to consciously decide that, based on nothing factual or logical, that I must resign myself to a mental or physical purgatory for the entire coming weekend, because of 2 hours of very minor, very common, inconvenient tire swapping
Having to change a flat tire on a Friday night commute only affects you in the way YOU, AND ONLY YOU, decide to allow it to affect you…
…unless you are hopelessly addicted to to something, or are one of those "tin foil hat" people who think they are not in control of the thoughts that are in their heads and, instead, the government has secretly taken control of what they think, then you are in full control of the thoughts, and therefore, your physical, mental, and emotional responses to the flat tire conundrum
So why would someone who has total control of how this inconvenience affects them, consciously decide that they must cancel their plans and force themselves to feel badly and negatively…and irrationally and illogically concede to defeat??? - it's utter madness!!!
now, I'm human too, and I understand how these defeatist reactions can be influenced by people in your life…or your personal life experiences…or your parents are negative and defeatist and have a quitter attitude and are experts at turning molehills into mountains
I'm not being snobbish or acting like I'm superior or smarter than you, so please don't think I'm just some jerk hiding behind his keyboard who is flexing his internet badass your way
What I'm getting at is this: how good or bad you feel and look…and how successful or unsuccessful you are in life and in reaching your goals…and, as such, how good or bad your life is after you decide how to react to that moment you realize you have to stop and change the tire…is truly based not on what you have to deal with…but how YOU respond to that stimulus when it occurs
So, just take a few minutes 2-3 times per day and remind yourself and reflect for a moment on the fact that you are special because you are sentient - think of some type of unexpected inconvenience that occurred to you recently and think about how you controlled yourself to respond to it
if you are honest with yourself and you see a pattern of strongly negative and excessively long lasting bad thoughts and feelings when life throws an unexpected thing your way, tell yourself that the reason your last Friday flat tire made you feel like your whole weekend was gone and the resin you felt like the whole world took a giant shit on you for the whole weekend is because, for whatever reasons, YOU DECIDED, ON YOUR OWN, TO FEEL THAT WAY
Something that helps me is this:
When life makes me take a bite out of a shit sandwich, to try and just clear my head and calm my emotions right away - and before I decide on how I'm going to allow it to affect me - to allow myself to logically think about the situation and the true impact it will have on me right now, over the next 3 hours, and over the next 24-36 hours
It's not very hard to gain back control of your sentient powers - just tell yourself, many times throughout your day, that life WILL, no doubt, show up in your truck or at the door of your office and toss you a ziplock baggy with a freshly made shit sandwich that you will HAVE to take a big, sloppy, drippy bite out of
But tell yourself that, before the normal negative emotional response gets to strong to fight off, you will take a fee breath and clear your mind, then you will take 15 seconds (or 20 minutes…or longer, depending on the size of the sandwich), and you will use your power over your thoughts to just come up with a logical approach to what needs to be done right away, how it will affect your next 3 hours, and whether or not you will wake up on Saturday and still need to handle a few loose strings before it is no longer affecting you
What you will find out is that 95% of the shit sandwich bites you have to take only cause you to taste the poo until you've chewed it and swallowed it, (and maybe brushed your shitty teeth [emoji39]), then what initially started to convince you that you had to spend your entire weekend chewing that bite , actually only caused you 30 minutes to 1 hour of shit breath, and then it was gone and you could continue on with your plans to break your personal record for brain cell deaths from alcohol consumption in a 24 hour period[emoji106][emoji847]
In 3-6 months, you will find that your natural reaction to flat tires and shoddy dental work will almost always be to not have a powerful, ruinous, negative reaction
instead, when you feel the tire going down, you will have these thoughts:
"Ain't that a MFer! - ok, well, there is only one thing worth focusing on at this moment…safely get this truck off the road, get out, grab the jack, get the lugs off, throw the flat tire in the truck bed, bolt on the spare, then continue your commute home
and you will be in control of your reaction and, yes, while you are kneeling in gravel and broken beer bottle glass, and dead armadillos, that's when you are forcing yourself to chew and swallow that deeeeelicious bite of bird shit on rye, but once you are back on the road and doing what you want to be doing, you will feel free and happy and you'll be jamming to your favorite Backstreet Boys mix tape, and you will realize that, because you reminded yourself that you are a sentient badass, that, instead of that flat tire ruining the next 48 hours of your life, that really it only tasted shitty for 30-45 minutes and you'll be doing keg stands with your bros VERY soon!!!! [emoji481][emoji481][emoji481][emoji481][emoji481][emoji481][emoji482][emoji482][emoji482][emoji482][emoji482][emoji856][emoji856][emoji856][emoji856][emoji856][emoji856][emoji856][emoji856][emoji856][emoji856][emoji88][emoji88][emoji88][emoji88][emoji88][emoji88][emoji88][emoji88]
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