Needing prayers and advice

[ManiacMagoo]

Needing prayers and advice ( I'm now a dad )

Tonight my fiancee was admitted in the hospital 34 weeks pregnant due to what they thought was a blockage. I think her medical thing was a colonography or something along those lines. She has been having issues with her Jpouch since with the pregnancy it was suppose to push back but instead has pushed forward. After the MRI tonight they discovered a hemroid in the area of her Jpouch and are waiting for a surgical specialist to decide whether she has to have surgery now or if it can wait until the baby is born. As of now she is looking at staying a week in the hospital under monitoring in case of an oh shit moment. Being stubborn she didn't bother telling me she was having a lot of issue this past week even though I saw them and told her repeatedly to go in. They are wanting to keep her long enough to ultimately have the baby which was scheduled for a C section on January 31st.

Top all this excitement off with me being on LNI for the last 5 months for a back injury I suffered installing a transmission in the a Kenworth at work. I've been losing 40% of my income from it which blows. I have had a mid back MRI, bone scan, and x ray but it didn't show why I still hurt. I had an IME last week which lucky for me the doctor is on my side in getting me fixed so I have a emg nerve test coming up and another full MRI focusing on my neck pains now. Now I know continuing as a heavy diesel mechanic won't happen since putting my girls new SCX10 together killed my neck and back. So I have looked at school on my own for our future no matter what this outcome is. So between the both of us money got tight fast.

Now the advice part lol. I have a Snap On triple bank master series tool box with top hutch loaded along with a cart full of tools. I have receipts for way to damn much in this which I'm on a thin line of selling everything knowing I won't get any where close to what I have in it for it or keeping it. I know that keeping it lets me fix my junk no matter what along with causing me pain which I'm sure would be less then the hurt ass pain of a dealer fixing it. On the other hand I know that if I sold it I would be set bill wise with my limited income that god knows when will stop and her now on bed rest till our son is born plus it would cover the cost of my college out of my pocket. This has probably been one of the hardest things that has been tearing me up because I owe less than $2k on my tools from being paid off since I have bought everything over the last 2 years when I went to Alaska. I know if I keep it we will get by fine but with my back injury it might not be the smartest thing for me to do? Thanks in advance for any input. ( Don't worry the toolbox is long gone "thumbsup" )

 

[thecrusader]

Sell the tools bro,just don't give them away though.
sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do,later on you can always
build up your tool collection.Sorry to hear about all that and all the best.
Sometimes you just have to sell shit to get by,it happens to a lot of us.

Take care,i hope everything works out.

 

[THX_138]

Easy for me to say on my end of things, but I find we are rarely given more then we can handle at one given time.

We can surely be tested to our limits, but when you look back on just about every bad time or situation, more often then not I think one can say they made it through pretty well. Somehow, some way we dig down and plant out feet firmly in the ground and take a stand and concentrate on what's in front of us and we simply do what needs to be done.

You surely sound like you have already begun to dig your feet in. The rest is day by day... conquer it as it comes! You KNOW you will. You know you have to.... it's simply what you do as a father and a husband.

Material things in life are ALWAYS replaceable, if they can't be replaced, you weren't meant to have them to begin with.

Family First

But I know from your words already written that "Family First" is already in your heart.

You & your family are in my prayers and wishing you all a Most Prosperous, Happy & Healthy New Year.

One day at a time...




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[crash]

Oh damn sorry man. My thoughts go out to you and your fiancee.

 

[dezfan]

Prayers inbound!

 

[Krakker]

Prayers inbound!

X's 2. We pray you'll be in Gods hands and that he'll provide for you as you need.

 

[Elmo]

My wife an I will be praying for your family.

 

[GRIMGREG]

Sell the box, and any specialty tools, keep the generic tools (sockets, wrenches, etc.) and eventually get a cheaper/smaller box for them.

 

[ManiacMagoo]

I want to give a big thanks to everyone. One thing that has always made me proud has been being a member of this awesome website since 2004. Jason and Badger put this place together and it has filled with amazing people. I've watched this community help a lot of people out in hard times to see those people be able to continue on being beside us.

Today was a lot more positive. Between the hernia team, OBGYN team, colon team, gut team, general care team, and amazing nurses they have got her eating solid food as of tonight. They have agreed that she will need bed rest until at least the middle of March. They have the c section scheduled on track for January 31st as long as the baby plays nice. Then 6 weeks later she will be going back in for the hernia surgery as long as her body holds out and doesn't turn for the worst. She had the best doctors in the world tell her for 9 years that having a baby was physically impossible because of her medical issues. Well to them I have said they should've blamed her past boyfriend because weeks after we got together it happened. It is a blessing and I'm just glad I can stand by her side enjoying this miracle with her as I have always read about them.

THX_138
Re: Needing prayers and advice
Easy for me to say on my end of things, but I find we are rarely given more then we can handle at one given time.

We can surely be tested to our limits, but when you look back on just about every bad time or situation, more often then not I think one can say they made it through pretty well. Somehow, some way we dig down and plant out feet firmly in the ground and take a stand and concentrate on what's in front of us and we simply do what needs to be done.

You surely sound like you have already begun to dig your feet in. The rest is day by day... conquer it as it comes! You KNOW you will. You know you have to.... it's simply what you do as a father and a husband.

Material things in life are ALWAYS replaceable, if they can't be replaced, you weren't meant to have them to begin with.

Family First

But I know from your words already written that "Family First" is already in your heart.

You & your family are in my prayers and wishing you all a Most Prosperous, Happy & Healthy New Year.

One day at a time...

You couldn't have said things any better. I have lived by this for my whole life. I have gave up everything multiple times being a single dad for 9 years but at the end of the day when you come home to see the smiles surround you it all is always worth it. 1 day at a time is how we are going to deal with the tool box because I'm just glad I have the option of having it as a financial back up plan just in case things do get worse.

I've made some truly amazing friends from this website and this hobby all over the country. Once this is down I know she wants to leave Washington so that ball is already rolling with college for both of us and future plans which could lean more on the box leaving for the better cause. Thanks for being an awesome site and the kind PM's people have sent me. "thumbsup"

 

[ManiacMagoo]

Some might have seen / heard of the hell I have been through the last 3 months with my fiancee and medical issues. The pregnancy played hell on her body with all of her medical issues due to having her large intestines removed and a J pouch. Let's just say 3 months of a lot of hospital time, over night stays, and being told the worst on 1/28/14 at 10:49am I became the proud father of Jaxon James Magee a 5lb 9.2 ounce miracle baby. I'm glad that the C section/tube tying/ hernia repair surgery pulled through with everyone in healthy spirits. She was told for the last 10 years it was impossible for her to get pregnant. So this has been a very emotional experience to share with her.

 

[RickGrimes]

Little guy looks great man. Wish your family the best.

 

[Duuuuuuuude]

That's awesome man, congratulations! "thumbsup"

 

[Red Rockcrawler]

Congrats Brian