Adoption?

[run2jeepn]

Has anyone adopted any kids or infants?

My Wife and I can't have anymore and was looking to adopt. Thing is we have heard it's $20k or so to do in the US, but if you go overseas it's much cheaper.

Anyone have any tips or Links or places to look up?

Thanks

 

[crash]

Our neighbor did (3 kids) but they were foster parents first. But he had told me its not cheap..

 

[ROCKEDUP RICKY]

Our neighbor did (3 kids) but they were foster parents first. But he had told me its not cheap..

Having a kid isn't cheap with out adopting.

 

[ROCKEDUP RICKY]

Has anyone adopted any kids or infants?

My Wife and I can't have anymore and was looking to adopt. Thing is we have heard it's $20k or so to do in the US, but if you go overseas it's much cheaper.

Anyone have any tips or Links or places to look up?

Thanks

Every thing is cheaper overseas.

 

[kincer]

Hi my Wife and I adopted two foster kids three years ago,they are 13(girl) and 17(boy) brother and sister, it was a little rocky at first but we wouldnt change a thing! In the state of Pa the govt. pays for everything, however they put you through alot of redtape first though, but I think thats a good thing because that weeds out the people that dont really want to do it. We didnt have a big chunk of change to adopt so this worked great for us. Hope that helps.

 

[jason]

Not to sway your decesion, but here is my limited experience.

My aunt and uncle had raised all of their kids 3 out of college, and one 13 year old still at home. They decided to adopt. To do so they had to have intense background checks done, attend classes for over 2 years and pay a SHITLOAD of money.

Then it came time to find them a child. The system paired them up with a 12 year old little black girl that had been in foster care her entire life. They were allowed to see her like once a week to get to know her. Since they weren't her parents yet they couldn't ask her school any questions, or even find out any particular details on her at all through her foster parents at the time.

Then she moved in and was theirs. The nice little girl they met was gone and they had this demon child. She wouldn't listen at all, consequences didn't mean a thing, she didn't care what you took away or what she couldn't do. They couldn't spank her because according to the state they'd have been in huge trouble doing so. Her teachers all called and told them what a horrible child she was, and none of them wanted to work with her. It almost broke up their marriage, their son ran away, and it was total hell for the 2 months they had her.

My uncle made the hard decesion after those 2 months to give up all that hard work they had done for years to try to better someone elses life, and they gave her back to the state, to save his family.

 

[Duuuuuuuude]

Every thing is cheaper overseas.

x2

Buy American!

 

[TexasSP]

Adoption varies greatly from state to state and organization to organization. It takes a lot of research. My wife and here sister were both adopted and we have several friends with adopted children. Some ways are extremely expensive and some programs actually raise money to help caring families adopt children. I know people who have spent 25k and ones who only spent around 2k.

My wife and I also plan on adopting ourselves. We have two of our own but because of her background and the fact of seeing so many kids that need good families, it is a plan for us in the future.

I would also gauge that the horror stories are much fewer than the good ones. You have to realize that adopting a child at a young age will be far different than adopting an older child. I know several families who have adopted teens and while they have difficulties, they have been great for both the parents and kids. One in particular I know was adopted at around 13 and had she not been, she was very close to engaging in prostitution. The fact that at 13 she looked closer to 18-19 didn't help either. While she had issues fortunately with counseling and her caring adoptive family she worked through them and is doing well in college and life now.

I also have some close friends who adopted from Russia and they have two of the most intelligent and beautiful children I have ever known.

 

[run2jeepn]

Having a kid isn't cheap with out adopting.

It is when you have insurance to cover the all the medical cost of having one.

Hi my Wife and I adopted two foster kids three years ago,they are 13(girl) and 17(boy) brother and sister, it was a little rocky at first but we wouldnt change a thing! In the state of Pa the govt. pays for everything, however they put you through alot of redtape first though, but I think thats a good thing because that weeds out the people that dont really want to do it. We didnt have a big chunk of change to adopt so this worked great for us. Hope that helps.

We are planning on 2yrs or younger.

Not to sway your decesion, but here is my limited experience.

My aunt and uncle had raised all of their kids 3 out of college, and one 13 year old still at home. They decided to adopt. To do so they had to have intense background checks done, attend classes for over 2 years and pay a SHITLOAD of money.

Then it came time to find them a child. The system paired them up with a 12 year old little black girl that had been in foster care her entire life. They were allowed to see her like once a week to get to know her. Since they weren't her parents yet they couldn't ask her school any questions, or even find out any particular details on her at all through her foster parents at the time.

Then she moved in and was theirs. The nice little girl they met was gone and they had this demon child. She wouldn't listen at all, consequences didn't mean a thing, she didn't care what you took away or what she couldn't do. They couldn't spank her because according to the state they'd have been in huge trouble doing so. Her teachers all called and told them what a horrible child she was, and none of them wanted to work with her. It almost broke up their marriage, their son ran away, and it was total hell for the 2 months they had her.

My uncle made the hard decesion after those 2 months to give up all that hard work they had done for years to try to better someone elses life, and they gave her back to the state, to save his family.

That's sad. In high school my parents become foster parents and was able to get my best friend who has lived in foster homes at least since he was in 3rd grade when I met him at school. My summer before our Senior Year he was able to move in with us. Even after High School. We got a house in town and rented for a while. In that house we both meet the women we married to now.

Adoption varies greatly from state to state and organization to organization. It takes a lot of research. My wife and here sister were both adopted and we have several friends with adopted children. Some ways are extremely expensive and some programs actually raise money to help caring families adopt children. I know people who have spent 25k and ones who only spent around 2k.

My wife and I also plan on adopting ourselves. We have two of our own but because of her background and the fact of seeing so many kids that need good families, it is a plan for us in the future.

I would also gauge that the horror stories are much fewer than the good ones. You have to realize that adopting a child at a young age will be far different than adopting an older child. I know several families who have adopted teens and while they have difficulties, they have been great for both the parents and kids. One in particular I know was adopted at around 13 and had she not been, she was very close to engaging in prostitution. The fact that at 13 she looked closer to 18-19 didn't help either. While she had issues fortunately with counseling and her caring adoptive family she worked through them and is doing well in college and life now.

I also have some close friends who adopted from Russia and they have two of the most intelligent and beautiful children I have ever known.

There is so much to look into it's crazy. :shock:

 

[RivBlueNoma]

My Wife and I planned to adopt until we started seriously looking into it. We found out how expensive it is here in Missouri. We were floored to learn that it was going to cost $15k to $20k to adopt one kid! It was going to cost $10k or $15k (cant rememebr which) just to get the ball rolling. After that there would be extensive financial checks, back ground checks and multiple surprise home inspections at $1500 a whack. And you had to pass all of those before you could be considered worthy of adopting a child. Its totally insane that it costs that much money (money that could go a long ways towards raising a child!) just to give a child in need a good home. I understand all of the precautions but I fail to understand why it all costs so darn much. Its a shame that any pair of irresponsible morons so broke they dont have a pot to piss in can make a kid and be allowed to raise the child as they see fit but they put good people who are capable of giving a child a stable loving home with a good life through the wringer just because they cant make a child of their own.

 

[run2jeepn]

My Wife and I planned to adopt until we started seriously looking into it. We found out how expensive it is here in Missouri. We were floored to learn that it was going to cost $15k to $20k to adopt one kid! It was going to cost $10k or $15k (cant rememebr which) just to get the ball rolling. After that there would be extensive financial checks, back ground checks and multiple surprise home inspections at $1500 a whack. And you had to pass all of those before you could be considered worthy of adopting a child. Its totally insane that it costs that much money (money that could go a long ways towards raising a child!) just to give a child in need a good home. I understand all of the precautions but I fail to understand why it all costs so darn much. Its a shame that any pair of irresponsible morons so broke they dont have a pot to piss in can make a kid and be allowed to raise the child as they see fit but they put good people who are capable of giving a child a stable loving home with a good life through the wringer just because they cant make a child of their own.

x2... I'm in Mo as well.... I work for the Gov and get regular background checks as it is.

It's Cheaper to fly overseas and adopt a Child, but to save one in our own country it's gonna cost you twice a much.

 

[RivBlueNoma]

Its a pretty damned sad state of affairs when so many children need a home and we cant give them one because the cost is completely insane.

x2... I'm in Mo as well.... I work for the Gov and get regular background checks as it is.

It's Cheaper to fly overseas and adopt a Child, but to save one in our own country it's gonna cost you twice a much.

 

[dezfan]

Get the Government involved in anything and...

 

[Cordwood]

A buddy of mine is in the middle of it. Theyve been through all the rigorous background checking and interviewing, and I believe it does end up costing 15-20k. You get your profile put up on a list and expecting mothers can peruse your info and select you if they like you. Thats where they are now. Lots of money invested and waiting. I can get the name of the company if you're interested.

 

[run2jeepn]

A buddy of mine is in the middle of it. Theyve been through all the rigorous background checking and interviewing, and I believe it does end up costing 15-20k. You get your profile put up on a list and expecting mothers can peruse your info and select you if they like you. Thats where they are now. Lots of money invested and waiting. I can get the name of the company if you're interested.

We would love to, but there is no way we have $20k right now. We are looking through one way now that goes through a Baptist Foundation. Where they pay most of it. We just have to take classes every week for a couple of months, I think anyway.. We haven't looked into it to much.

 

[Cordwood]

We would love to, but there is no way we have $20k right now. We are looking through one way now that goes through a Baptist Foundation. Where they pay most of it. We just have to take classes every week for a couple of months, I think anyway.. We haven't looked into it to much.

That sounds like a good deal. I wish you the best.

 

[Mr.Slave]

Get the Government involved in anything and...

Id love to hear who you think should be in charge of handing out kids?

id also love to hear everyone complain they give kids to shitty people if they didnt do all the background checks and shit.

 

[Eritex Inc.]

Take this for what you want but here is my wife and I's experience with adoption. My wife has been pregnant 7 times and all have died except 1 between 6 and 24 weeks along in the pregnancy. Anyways, here is what we found....


Domestic adoption of a 24 month or younger healthy child will run you $15,000.00 to $30,000.00.....no ifs, ands, or buts about it. Either going through a private agency, the state, or foster care, get ready to bust out the check book.

If you go the foster care route, get ready for some serious classes, back ground checks, home invasion by the state, disrupting your biological children's lives, dealing with crack head parents, court dates, etc. My wife and I went through the classes about 2 years ago and said screw it. You have NO rights as a foster parent and your life stops being yours once a child is placed in your house.

Over seas adoption. Anyone who tells you this is a cheaper method has not looked at it in depth. You will pay no less then $8,000.00 to buy a baby from China and that is before you have to fly your entire family over for between 4 and 21 days to pick up the child and get the legal BS taken care of.

Look here...

Statistics on Cost of Adopting

Now, when you see that $2500.00 adoption fee what that applies to is an occasion when you are adopting a family members child who has died or been incarcerated for 40 years or something. That is just legal fees. Best bet, contact some local agencies and go have a meeting with them. I pissed off more then one agency when I asked for a bottom line number on what this would cost. The women (always over done, self riotous ****s) would scoff and drop some BS line like...

"What is money when it comes to a child's life?"

...but when the numbers came out, it was ALWAYS north of $25,000.00.

 

[TexasSP]

The sad thing is that it's lawyers making the money in the adoption world. Just like everything else, our system is run by lawyers to benefit lawyers.

 

[Eritex Inc.]

The sad thing is that it's lawyers making the money in the adoption world. Just like everything else, our system is run by lawyers to benefit lawyers.

Amen...